{"id":15846,"date":"2021-12-22T18:57:39","date_gmt":"2021-12-22T16:57:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/?p=15846"},"modified":"2022-04-25T08:00:34","modified_gmt":"2022-04-25T06:00:34","slug":"plan-ahead-to-avoid-holiday-stressors","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/plan-ahead-to-avoid-holiday-stressors\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Plan Ahead to Avoid Holiday Stressors"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>There&#8217;s quite a lot of things we try to plan ahead for the holidays. And in the rush of it all, we often forget to think about ourselves too. Do you get anxious and stressed during the holidays? Are you often triggered during social gatherings? Worrying about trying to make everything perfect for everyone around you? This season, make use of the tips below to preserve your mental health and experience the magic of the holidays.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The end of the year is a highly anticipated time for many. We usually get to be together with family and indulge in cozy festive gatherings and fun activities. For some of us, however, the end of December isn\u2019t always the most wonderful time of the year. This is often because spending prolonged time with family can trigger attachment issues. Yet, even if you have an insecure attachment style, with awareness and planning, you too can experience the holiday magic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-1024x606.png\" alt=\"Girl, sad during the holidays due to social stressors\n\" class=\"wp-image-15861\" width=\"410\" height=\"243\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-1024x606.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-300x178.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-768x455.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-1536x910.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-2048x1213.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-2000x1184.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-1500x888.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-1000x592.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-800x474.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-750x444.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-617x365.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-600x355.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-150x89.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-500x296.png 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-400x237.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-247x146.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-61-110x65.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 410px) 100vw, 410px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The holiday season is filled with the expectation to come together, socialize, and get everyone the &#8216;perfect&#8217; gifts. For everyone &#8211; even secure attachers &#8211; these factors can be fraught with stress, anxiety, and, in some cases, even fear. For insecure attachers, it can feel even more overwhelming to be with their loved ones for protracted periods of time. Certain family members may provoke their attachment traits by saying the wrong thing or behaving selfishly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nevertheless, even if you have an insecure attachment style, it&#8217;s possible to prevent emotional distress. You can learn to understand and manage your triggers before they lead to significant stress and conflicts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">This article contains all you need to know about managing your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/four-attachment-styles\/\">attachment style<\/a> and maintaining holiday magic, including:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#ecf9eb\"><li><strong>What a holiday mental health plan is<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Tips for making a holiday plan that works for all insecure attachment styles<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Attachment style-specific tips for creating a holiday plan<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What is a Holiday Mental Health Plan?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A holiday plan is a pre-prepared list of strategies for managing your attachment style and its triggers during the festive season. Your plan should be personal to you and rooted in your values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, it may be necessary to know your attachment style to fully understand why other people\u2019s actions affect you in certain ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">If you do not know your attachment style, you can take our free attachment style quiz<a href=\"https:\/\/quiz.attachmentproject.com\/\"> here.<\/a><\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>The following are some tips for creating a holiday plan that may be useful for all insecure attachment styles. (Don\u2019t worry &#8211; we will discuss attachment style-specific strategies further on in this article.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Holiday Tips All Insecure Attachers Can Use to Plan Ahead<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Think about your triggers from previous holidays<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>To try and capture the magic of the holidays this year, make a note of the people\/events\/times that have aggravated your attachment traits and ruined the festive feeling for you over past seasons. Think back as far as you can. You might start to notice certain patterns develop.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-1024x753.png\" alt=\"Girl experiencing emotional triggers during the holidays\" class=\"wp-image-15865\" width=\"471\" height=\"347\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-1024x753.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-300x221.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-768x565.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-1536x1129.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-2048x1506.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-2000x1471.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-1500x1103.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-1000x735.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-800x588.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-750x551.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-617x454.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-600x441.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-150x110.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-500x368.png 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-400x294.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-247x182.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-63-1-110x81.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 471px) 100vw, 471px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, an avoidant attacher might get into arguments with family members over pushing for too much time together. Or an anxious attacher may put themselves under pressure to please every family member &#8211; even though it\u2019s an impossible task. Or perhaps a disorganized attacher might notice that they tend to be most reactive around certain people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you start to detect a pattern, write down the situations (including specific people, places, and times) that might have activated attachment insecurities in the past. Reflecting on these notes, try to figure out how and when such situations might reoccur this holiday season. Anticipating the environments in which you might struggle with attachment-related issues could help you to avoid those moments or to handle them better &#8211; simply due to being mentally prepared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you have done so, it&#8217;s time to figure out strategies that will calm your triggers. This could prevent you from becoming anxious or distressed and mitigate what would have previously been a significant conflict. You could utilize the following techniques as soothing strategies:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. <strong>Find a secure base<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>People with a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/secure-attachment\/\">secure attachment style<\/a> usually contribute to and elevate the festive mood. They are capable of providing consistency, warmth, and reassurance to others. If you are an insecure attacher, however, the holidays may create stressful and anxious feelings for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Seeing as approximately two-thirds of the population are secure attachers, the chances are that you know someone securely attached. This person might be a partner, a friend, or an extended family member.&nbsp;They could adopt the role of a secure base for you during the holidays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Plan ahead and ask your secure base if you may contact them for a call or a meet.  Even better, you could bring your secure base with you to your holiday gatherings &#8211; if possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. <strong>Engage in meaningful rituals<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-688x1024.png\" alt=\"plan ahead special holiday rituals\n\" class=\"wp-image-15887\" width=\"298\" height=\"444\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-688x1024.png 688w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-201x300.png 201w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-768x1144.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1032x1536.png 1032w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1375x2048.png 1375w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1343x2000.png 1343w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1500x2233.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1007x1500.png 1007w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-672x1000.png 672w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-800x1191.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-504x750.png 504w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-617x919.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-600x893.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-150x223.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-1000x1489.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-336x500.png 336w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-400x596.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-247x368.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-64-1-74x110.png 74w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 298px) 100vw, 298px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>On the one hand, the holiday season is associated with positive well-being and overall life satisfaction. On the other hand, it might also trigger negative affect and poor emotional family climate. However, participating in seasonal rituals increases festive mood, positive well-being, and perceived social impact. For some of us, these rituals may already be well-ingrained in our December celebrations. Others, however, might find it helpful to create new ones for personal reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, you could copy the Icelandic ritual of exchanging books on Christmas Eve. You could spend the evening reading your new hauls in front of the fire. Alternatively, you could go for a Christmas morning walk in festive pajamas. You could even join the droves of others who choose to promote their feelings of positivity by \u201cdipping\u201d in freezing bodies of water on Christmas day. How meaningful rituals usually depends on personal values; therefore it is important to create ones that are significant to you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Unfortunately, what may have previously been a well-established ritual may no longer be possible due to Coronavirus restrictions. However, sometimes what\u2019s different can make the season special. You could try to figure out a way of making the most of this season in a way that works for you. It might be an annual Zoom call with friends who live abroad, a film that you watch with a close loved one, or a baking ritual for making festive gifts.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Attachment Style-Specific Strategies to Plan Ahead for the Holidays<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-background wp-block-heading\" style=\"background-color:#e7f8ff\">I. <strong>Tips for People with Avoidant Attachment Style<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>An <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/avoidant-attachment-style\/\">avoidant attacher<\/a> may feel overwhelmed by the amount of togetherness and lack of personal space that tends to accompany the holiday season. Therefore, a holiday plan for someone with this style may require pre-planning an escape route from the bustle of activities. Doing so might mean thinking of reasons to excuse yourself from your family to prevent them from becoming offended. It could be as simple as needing to take a phone call, saying that you agreed to meet up with someone for a walk (even if you plan to do so by yourself), or going for a coffee with your secure base.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other hand, as an avoidant attacher, you may benefit from immersing yourself more in the holiday spirit. You might end up feeling included and valued instead of permanently on the edge of the excitement, or fending off comments about not trying to be involved. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Therefore, you might benefit from including the following actions in your holiday plan:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-1024x619.png\" alt=\"plan ahead Christmas presents to avoid stress\" class=\"wp-image-15894\" width=\"403\" height=\"245\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-1024x619.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-300x181.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-1536x929.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-2048x1239.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-2000x1209.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-1500x907.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-1000x605.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-800x484.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-750x454.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-617x373.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-600x363.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-150x91.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-400x242.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-247x149.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-65-110x67.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 403px) 100vw, 403px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Think about gift-giving in advance <\/strong>instead of leaving it until the last minute. This practice could reduce stress for you and make the gift-receiver feel more valued. Consider things that they enjoy or elements about their life that they\u2019ve told you about in the past. You could also ask someone close to them for advice.<\/li><li><strong>Make a list of pre-planned questions to ask your family members.<\/strong> Everyone enjoys feeling appreciated, and you will come across as interested in their life.<\/li><li><strong>Practice maintaining comfortable eye contact and relaxed body language. <\/strong>Remember, your presence alone is often a gift to your family, so do your best not to focus on your discomfort. The holiday season is temporary, and you can return to your established boundaries in the New Year.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-background wp-block-heading\" style=\"background-color:#fff3d6\">II. <strong>Tips for People with Anxious Attachment Style<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>An individual with the<a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/anxious-attachment\/\"> anxious attachment<\/a> style may be hyperaware of their family member\u2019s needs. Therefore, they typically stress about buying the perfect presents, catering to everyone\u2019s whims, and doing their best to make the holidays special for everyone. However, they might do so to the detriment of their own needs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have an anxious attachment style, it may be necessary to factor some self-care activities into your holiday plan. Such activities include actions like meditation, going out to meet friends, delegating some of the cooking and chores, and meeting your secure base for a cathartic chat. Even though the anxious attacher is the \u201cperfect\u201d festive host, you may risk becoming emotionally drained if you don\u2019t remember to take care of yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Including the following actions in your holiday plan could help protect you from burnout over the festive season:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-1024x575.png\" alt=\"plan ahead for the holidays: things to do more and less of this year\" class=\"wp-image-15848\" width=\"512\" height=\"288\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-1024x575.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-300x168.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-768x431.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-1536x862.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-2048x1150.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-2000x1123.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-1500x842.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-1000x561.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-800x449.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-750x421.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-617x346.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-600x337.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-150x84.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-500x281.png 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-400x225.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-247x139.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-62-110x62.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Regularly remind yourself that your innate threat detection system is over-sensitive <\/strong>&#8211; your friends and family experience a range of emotions every day that have absolutely nothing to do with you. So give yourself a break and stop over-analyzing their every facial expression and tone of voice for something you may have done wrong.<\/li><li><strong>Prioritize your routine <\/strong>&#8211; as an anxious attacher, you may want to make the holiday season perfect for everyone. But nobody can be perfect all the time, and there\u2019s only a certain amount of hours in a day. Make a list of things that you need to do and create a hierarchy of the ones that are most important. Stick to this list, and you\u2019ll not only feel less stressed, but you\u2019ll likely be more productive too.<\/li><li><strong>Make a list of things that make you feel happy <\/strong>and aim to do at least one of them a day &#8211; taking time for yourself can prevent you from feeling burnt-out and taken advantage of during the holiday season.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-background wp-block-heading\" style=\"background-color:#ffceda\">III. <strong>Tips for People with Disorganized Attachment Style<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Capturing the magic of the winter holidays can be particularly difficult for someone with a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/disorganized-attachment\/\">disorganized attachment<\/a> style &#8211; especially if they spend it with their family of origin. A disorganized attacher may also experience conflicted feelings during the festive season; they might both desire to please their family members, yet experience painful triggers around them. Such triggers may include family members drinking alcohol to excess, major conflicts or arguments, or feeling forced to spend time with people who make them uncomfortable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have a disorganized attachment style, you could factor in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/self-regulation-disorganized-attachment-triggers\/\">emotion-regulating actions<\/a> into your holiday plan. Such actions may include: staying at a neutral location such as a hotel so that you can leave a stressful environment behind, taking your secure base to your family gatherings, or simply choosing to only see family members that don\u2019t trigger your attachment traits (if such members exist). It is important that you enjoy the holiday season just as much as anyone else, so do what you need to do to restore joy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Including actions such as the following can prevent a disorganized attacher from feeling overwhelmed during the holiday season:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-1024x606.png\" alt=\"Plan ahead an escape route from festive gatherings to deal with social anxiety\" class=\"wp-image-15903\" width=\"512\" height=\"303\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-1024x606.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-300x178.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-768x455.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-1536x910.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-2048x1213.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-2000x1184.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-1500x888.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-1000x592.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-800x474.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-750x444.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-617x365.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-600x355.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-150x89.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-500x296.png 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-400x237.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-247x146.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-66-110x65.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Make a reminder to focus on being present in the moment<\/strong> rather than worrying about the worst-case scenario &#8211; even if something bad does happen, you\u2019ve handled it before, so you can get through it again. This way, you can focus your energy on enjoying other people\u2019s company and the magic of the festive season.<\/li><li><strong>Write down a detailed escape plan<\/strong> &#8211; when you recognize that something is triggering your attachment style, it may be best to remove yourself from the situation entirely. Create a list of places you could go, trusted people you could contact, and comforting activities you could engage in.<\/li><li><strong>Practice being consistent in how you react to others<\/strong> &#8211; making a note of your anxious thoughts and feelings in the lead-up to the holiday season can help you recognize how they affect your responses to others. To get the most out of the holidays, you could use calming activities such as mindful breathing to not be overly reactive to what others say or do. What\u2019s more, if the situation becomes too much for you, then you could enact your escape plan.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Conclusion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-1024x449.png\" alt=\"plan ahead to prioritize mental health during the festive season\" class=\"wp-image-15904\" width=\"768\" height=\"337\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-1024x449.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-300x132.png 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-768x337.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-1536x674.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-2048x899.png 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-2000x877.png 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-1500x658.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-1000x439.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-800x351.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-750x329.png 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-617x271.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-600x263.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-150x66.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-500x219.png 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-400x175.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-247x108.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Frame-67-110x48.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>This holiday season, recapture the holiday magic and make your mental health a priority by putting some of these <em>Holiday Mental Health Plan <\/em>tips into action &#8211; and make sure to let us know which ones work best for you. If you would like to learn more about how the different attachment styles develop and their typical triggers, then our previous blog posts on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/anxious-attachment\/\">anxious<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/avoidant-attachment-style\/\">avoidant<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/four-attachment-styles\/\">disorganized<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/secure-attachment\/\">secure<\/a> attachment can help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lastly, you deserve to enjoy the festive season as much as everyone else, so always try to remember that you have absolutely zero obligations to anyone &#8211; including family members &#8211; if it means that you have to sacrifice your emotional well-being.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don&#8217;t let insecure attachment ruin your holidays! 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