{"id":16203,"date":"2022-01-24T19:11:52","date_gmt":"2022-01-24T17:11:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/?p=16203"},"modified":"2023-04-06T18:38:21","modified_gmt":"2023-04-06T16:38:21","slug":"intense-emotions-introduction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/intense-emotions-introduction\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding &#038; Coping with Intense Emotions &#8211; Introduction"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>We all experience highly intense emotions at some point in our lives. However, as powerful and overwhelming as intense emotions might seem, it is possible to overcome and regulate them<\/em>. <em>And it&#8217;s entirely within your power to learn how to do so. In this introductory post, we will share the basics behind emotions and emotion regulation.<\/em> <em>As we continue through the series<\/em>, <em>we will dive into more in-depth details around affect regulation. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you ever wondered why we can act so impulsively when we\u2019re in love? Or felt like a totally different person when you were mad? Maybe instead you\u2019ve had the experience of totally drowning in negativity and pessimism when something upset you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The thing is; although we often presume that these common feelings\/experiences are associated with what is happening to us, they are instead to do with how we regulate our intense emotions<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And even though we often attribute emotional matters to those of the heart, emotional responses are actually driven and regulated by our brains. The role of the brain in the management of emotion is quite complex. Still, this post is structured in such a way as to not overwhelm you, but rather introduce you to the basics of emotion regulation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>For this reason, the post covers the following topics:<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#fffaec\">\n<li>What are emotions?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How does the brain process emotions?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Why do we sometimes feel like our intense emotions are controlling us?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do we learn how to regulate emotions from our parents?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What can you do to regulate your emotions?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-1024x753.jpg\" alt=\"girl experiencing intense emotions from watching a scary movie\" class=\"wp-image-16209\" width=\"512\" height=\"377\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-1024x753.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-300x221.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-768x565.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-1536x1129.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-2048x1506.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-2000x1471.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-1000x735.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-750x551.jpg 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-150x110.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-500x368.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-1-110x81.jpg 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What are emotions?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>An <a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.apa.org\/emotion\">emotion<\/a> is a psychological, but also physical and behavioral response. For example; you\u2019re watching a scary movie, and the main character is about to go into the one room that you know is dangerous. Your heart starts thumping, your palms get a little sweaty, and you can\u2019t stop fidgeting in your chair thinking for screaming in your head: <em>\u201cDon\u2019t go in there! Don\u2019t go in there!\u201d<\/em>. These are both physical and behavioral components of the intense emotion you are experiencing &#8211; <strong>fear<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In a general sense, emotions arise from the interaction between cognitive (thoughts) and affective (emotions) processes [1]. These factors are based on the environment, individual physical processes, behavioral skills, representations of ourselves and our reality, and even <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/schema-therapy\/\">schemas<\/a> [2].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How does the brain process emotions?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The limbic system is responsible for the processing of emotions in our brain. Among the parts that are associated with emotions are the <em>thalamus, hypothalamus, hippocampus, and amygdala<\/em> [4,5].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The <em><strong>thalamus<\/strong><\/em> essentially estimates whether the information we&#8217;re receiving from our environment is important. Consequently, it decides to either process or ignore that information.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\"><em>Fun fact: Did you know that our sense of smell is the only information that our brain cannot choose to ignore?<\/em><\/pre>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-1024x753.jpg\" alt=\"The brain is responsible for processing intense emotions.\" class=\"wp-image-16210\" width=\"482\" height=\"355\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-1024x753.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-300x221.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-768x565.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-1536x1129.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-2048x1506.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-2000x1471.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-1000x735.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-750x551.jpg 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-150x110.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-500x368.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-92-2-110x81.jpg 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 482px) 100vw, 482px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The <em><strong>hypothalamus<\/strong><\/em> is a bridge between the body and the brain. It serves essential purposes, such as releasing hormones and regulating body temperature. This part of the brain is what makes it possible for us to feel our emotions (<em>e.g. feeling fidgety when we\u2019re nervous).&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The <em><strong>hippocampus<\/strong><\/em> is generally responsible for memory, learning, and &#8211; in particular -converting short-term memory into long-term. This part of the brain allows us to remember even the most random facts from when we were still in school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, the <em><strong>amygdala<\/strong><\/em> plays a role in the experiences of feeling aggression, fear, anxiety, pleasure, and sexual attraction. In our earlier example of the scary movie, the amygdala plays a role in your experience of fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Are we controlled by our intense emotions, or do they control us?<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, we may feel like our intense emotions completely take us over. It might even seem like our ability to be rational can be completely impeded.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Interestingly, because of this overwhelming sensation, emotions were once viewed as irrational impulses and were therefore perceived negatively. Later on, emotions were attributed an evolutionary explanation &#8211; as warning signals for situations that require our attention. This removed the stigma to some extent. However, even nowadays, people still sometimes view the display of intense emotions as a signal of a lack of self-control or immaturity [6].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>According to these two views (that emotions are an irrational impulse or a warning signal), emotions are both regulatory and regulated. They signal that we are receiving important information, but also require a level of effort to avoid acting on them too impulsively. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>This process is what we call <em>emotion regulation<\/em>. When that process is in some way disrupted or ineffective, we use the term <em>emotion dysregulation<\/em> [6].<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Emotion dysregulation occurs when patterns of emotions interfere with our overall psychological and physical balance, such as when sadness leads to full-blown depression. Dysregulation can occur as an under-or over-regulation of emotion. For example, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/anxious-avoidant-attachment-in-children\/\">children with the avoidant attachment<\/a> style typically over-regulate intense emotions. As a result, they do not display a strong reaction to separation from their caregiver. This lack of intense response does not mean that these children don\u2019t feel anything, but rather that they bottle up their intense emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Do we learn emotion regulation from our parents?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-688x1024.png\" alt=\"father and child in the park\" class=\"wp-image-16211\" width=\"344\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-688x1024.png 688w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-201x300.png 201w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-768x1144.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1032x1536.png 1032w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1375x2048.png 1375w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1343x2000.png 1343w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1500x2233.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1007x1500.png 1007w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-672x1000.png 672w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-800x1191.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-504x750.png 504w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-617x919.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-600x893.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-150x223.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-1000x1489.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-336x500.png 336w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-400x596.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-247x368.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-64-3-74x110.png 74w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 344px) 100vw, 344px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><strong>A parent\u2019s role in their child\u2019s emotion regulation is essential on multiple levels.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, a pattern of invalidating the child\u2019s emotions can lead to the child developing emotional dysregulation [7]. For instance, when parents do not tolerate or accept their child\u2019s emotions, the child learns that their feelings are bad, and thus, they hide or suppress them. This creates a pattern of over-regulation of emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Second, <strong>emotion regulation links strongly to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/four-attachment-styles\/\">attachment<\/a><\/strong> &#8211; which develops within the child\u2019s relationship with their parents. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/secure-attachment\/\">Secure attachers<\/a>, in general, are better at emotion regulation and problem-solving than their insecurely attached counterparts. This is due to the greater ease with which <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/secure-attachment-style-infants\/\">secure kids<\/a> explore the unknown world around them. When a child feels safe to explore, they are more likely to learn adaptive skills. Insecure attachers are more likely to experience emotion dysregulation because they did not feel this safety and support growing up [3].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Furthermore, research supports the idea that parents with emotion dysregulation are likely to pass this on to their children [7]. This would, indeed, be the case because the child learns (and later on, replicates) patterns of emotion regulation that are ultimately dysfunctional and lead to greater emotional distress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What can I do to regulate my intense emotions?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\"><strong>Researchers have identified three main ways to regulate emotions: reappraisal, suppression, and acceptance [8].<\/strong><\/pre>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Reappraisal<\/strong><\/em> involves changing how we perceive an emotional situation. This could be putting a positive spin on a triggering situation. For example, when an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/avoidant-attachment-triggers\/\">avoidant attacher feels triggered<\/a> by their partner\u2019s clingy behavior, they can try to look at their partner&#8217;s actions from a different perspective &#8211; as simply an indicator of how much their partner loves them.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1020x1024.png\" alt=\"An old man coping with intense emotions by substance abuse.\" class=\"wp-image-16216\" width=\"391\" height=\"393\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1020x1024.png 1020w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-150x151.png 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-768x771.png 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1530x1536.png 1530w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-2040x2048.png 2040w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-170x170.png 170w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1992x2000.png 1992w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1500x1506.png 1500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1494x1500.png 1494w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-996x1000.png 996w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-800x803.png 800w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-747x750.png 747w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-617x620.png 617w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-600x602.png 600w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-1000x1004.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-498x500.png 498w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-400x402.png 400w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-247x248.png 247w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Frame-58-1-110x110.png 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 391px) 100vw, 391px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Suppression<\/strong><\/em> occurs when we still feel and experience an emotion but block its behavioral expression. For example, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/disorganized-attachment\/\">a disorganized attacher<\/a> may feel an excessive desire for their partner&#8217;s attention but may choose to refrain from acting on this need. They still feel the negative emotion but avoid reacting to it (e.g. by starting a fight).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>These techniques have both pros and cons. Here are some examples.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the one hand, reappraisal can be helpful in situations where an emotion-based behavior is potentially harmful to ourselves or others. For example, reappraisal can work well for an<a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/anxious-attachment\/\"> anxious attacher<\/a> who is experiencing anxiety over their partner taking longer than usual to reply to their texts. Considering a different perspective &#8211; such as their partner being busy at that moment &#8211; may soothe the anxious attacher&#8217;s fear of abandonment. However, suppression can also work against us when applied inappropriately. For instance, an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/avoidant-attachment-style\/\">avoidant attacher<\/a> might over-regulate their emotions to the point that their partner can no longer understand their <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/attachment-styles-emotional-needs-and-loneliness\/\">emotional needs<\/a> [9].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The last technique is <em><strong>acceptance<\/strong><\/em>. Emotional acceptance means we acknowledge the intense emotion we are experiencing without trying to change it or stop it. In a way, this is the absence of active emotion regulation. For some, this technique &#8211; often associated with mindfulness &#8211; leads to resilience and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/negative-feelings\/\">decreased negative affect<\/a> [10].<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Conclusion<\/strong> &#8211; <strong>Regulating Intense Emotions<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As we can see, regulating intense emotions can be complex as the process operates individually depending on the person. Essentially, it all boils down to how our brains take in information from our day-to-day lives.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all know that going through intense emotions is inevitable. So, it\u2019s not about avoiding intense emotions. Rather, it\u2019s about learning to deal with them in a healthy and efficient way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Curious to learn more?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>If you would like to learn more on the topic of emotion regulation, stay tuned for updates on our next articles.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"laptop notebook and coffee\" class=\"wp-image-16218\" width=\"768\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-2000x1333.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-1000x667.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-750x500.jpg 750w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-500x333.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-cup-of-couple-6177677-110x73.jpg 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\"><strong>References<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\">1. Panksepp, J. (2008). The Affective Brain and Core Consciousness. Chapter in Lewis, M., Haviland-Jones, J.M., Barrett, L.F. (Eds.) <em>Handbook of Emotions<\/em> (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.&nbsp;<\/pre>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\">2. Frijda, N.H. (2008). Psychologist\u2019s Point of View. Chapter in Lewis, M., Haviland-Jones, J.M., Barrett, L.F. (Eds.) <em>Handbook of Emotions<\/em> (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.&nbsp;<\/pre>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\">3. Fredrickson, B.L., Cohn, M.L. (2008). Positive Emotions. Chapter in Lewis, M., Haviland-Jones, J.M., Barrett, L.F. (Eds.) <em>Handbook of Emotions<\/em> (3rd ed.). Guilford Press. <\/pre>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\">4. Rajmohan, V., Mohandas, E. (2007). The limbic system. <em>Indian Journal of Psychiatry, 49<\/em>(2), 132-139. <\/pre>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-verse\">5. Courtiol, E., Wilson, D.A. (2015). 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