{"id":16665,"date":"2022-03-10T17:59:58","date_gmt":"2022-03-10T15:59:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/?p=16665"},"modified":"2023-04-26T11:40:50","modified_gmt":"2023-04-26T09:40:50","slug":"be-kind-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.attachmentproject.com\/blog\/be-kind-to-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Kind to Yourself: Attachment & Self-Compassion"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
It can feel like second nature to give ourselves a hard time over doing something we regret - in fact, we tend to do so more often than we realize. But there is an alternative. <\/em><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
Self-compassion is the ability to be kind to yourself. It means turning support, love, understanding, and acceptance inwards. Essentially, it means acting towards yourself in the same way you\u2019d act towards your best friend\u2026 especially during tough and challenging times. <\/p>\n\n\n
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Most of us find it easy to show kindness, warmth, and empathy to our loved ones when they feel down. And yet, when it comes to ourselves, we become the biggest critics and often end up heartlessly punishing ourselves for the tiniest mistakes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even when it seems such an attitude is \u201cnot a big deal,\u201d it is. Self-compassion, and self-love in general, are<\/em><\/strong> important. They are essential for your well-being, peace of mind, and physiological health [1]. During stressful and difficult situations, in particular, the ability to be kind to yourself has the capacity to also decrease levels of anxiety and depression [2]. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u201cIf you have the ability to love, love yourself first.\u201d<\/p>\nCharles Bukowski<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Another central reason why self-love is a key ingredient to a healthy life is that your relationship with yourself sets the stage for all other relationships in your life.<\/strong> Thus, self-compassion will likely be a strong predictor of the quality of your personal relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now, all of this might seem damning if you are someone who tends to be rather harsh on themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
At this point, those of you who have a hard time treating themselves with kindness might be wondering\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n